The wisdom of a woman often lies in the ability to keep silent. To remain silent and thereby give yourself time to think about how best to solve a particular problem. And in a relationship with a man, silence, sometimes not just gold, is the only way to save love and respect. Given this, let's look at some of the most common situations in which female wisdom is the only way to maintain peace and quiet.
Are you still thinking about your ex
Never, under any circumstances, discuss your past relationships with your lover. Neither in a positive nor in a negative way. In the first case, unjustified jealousy may arise, in the second, perhaps male solidarity and the appearance of thoughts like: "Here is a woman, ah! She can talk such nasty things about me." Be restrained. Your past relationship is your experience, from which, whatever it may be, you have made important life lessons. Respect him. And let your ex-boyfriend be worthy of memories, keep them with you. And if you can’t wait to indulge in nostalgia, call a friend.
You don't like his best friend
This happens. And quite often. What to do in this case? Oddly enough, nothing. Behave with dignity, show "English" restraint. Any extremes: excessive courtesy or, conversely, ostentatious rejection can poison a relationship with your lover. A friend with whom your young man, perhaps, went to kindergarten together and spent a lot of time on the football field and in discos, perhaps he also needs you. Do not force to choose between you. This is not just stupid, but also not far-sighted. Show female wisdom: during the time keep silent and then, perhaps, your partner himself will go out to talk about what you do not like. Having discussed everything and finding a compromise solution, you can perfectly coexist next to a person who periodically appears unpleasant for you.
There is a gap between you and your young man - his mother
Perhaps you are out of luck, and you got a sissy. His mother calls frequently, he meekly listens to all her instructions. In a hurry, she hurries to her, even if this is not required. What to do in this case? To begin to observe: how much your relationship suffers from such maternal obsession. Be careful, restrained, with understanding. In the end, and you have a mother who is also dear to you. Leave negativity and criticism with you and observe, observe, observe. Discontent has arisen - express it very carefully, without irritation. And if your criticism met a storm of negative emotions on the part of your young man, then the time has come - go from observation to conversation. Discuss everything, delicately tell us what does not suit you. But remember: at times, mother-son relationships are so strong that nobody can break them. If this does not suit you and your young man always leaves his mother a priority, then perhaps you and your friend are not on the way. Mama’s son is not a phenomenon, this is a diagnosis.
